Tuesday, December 11, 2012

MUST WATCH :: 20 Year Old Gay Stereotypes Bitch About Stereotypes In The Gay Community (VIDEO)

Hat tip to my buddy over at Back2Stonewall for sharing this video with me.  I can't tell you how angry I got watching it.  I think it was about 20 seconds in and I started yelling at the "young men" in this video.  Your thoughts after watching?  Am I getting annoyed for nothing or does this clip frustrate you as well?


7 comments:

SEAN said...

I think it's called getting old.
They're young and the complaining about making new friends I'm sure is looking form them on hookup sites and not actually meeting them in person.

John Michael Hess said...

Huh. Now let me be honest and admit that I'm a homosexual man of 43 who hasn't been very involved with the gay community very much(though I wish that I was) but I was just at a gay bar (Paradise) last weekend and I witnessed the whole gamut of gay identities and didn't feel any immediate hate, odd. I stood on the edge of the dance floor and saw men enjoying the moment for whatever reason.

edmcan said...

I think they're young, naive and trying to be profound. To me, each and everyone of them embodied the stereotypical 'twink' persona, if you will, shaved eyebrows and all. They need to grow up, live in the big city for a while and develop. Must be nice to be so young, opinionated and stupid.

Frank said...

These are kids who have no first hand knowledge of marching on Washington, fighting for gay rights, Acting Up to fight for AIDS treatments, seeing their friends get sick and die, or needing a strong gay community for moral support and safety. they don't remember when it was nearly impossible to be oneself in a largely heterosexual group of friends or acquaintances or at school. We, the baby boomer generation and those long before us paved the way for these young people to feel comfortable defining themselves as they wish. Maybe there is a less prominent "gay community" now because most of the major battles have been fought and the battlegrounds now are electronic rather than on the streets. From what they say, their sexual attractions (e.g. being attracted to masculine men) and behaviors (promiscuity scale and having sex with opposite sex partners) are not much different from those of older generations of gay men, but now there are fewer obstacles to meeting other men. Gay, straight, bi or trans, there are nice guys, thoughtful guys, assholes, druggies, you name it. I think in big cities there are certainly more of each so your chances of encountering more of certain types increases, depending on where you're looking. My only critique of the film is "What's the point?" If it was to say that young people no longer need a gay community, well, I guess it made the point. Otherwise it was just a bunch of kids relating their own experience. Nothing to get upset about.

Dan Noonan said...

There were so many things in this video that made me incredibly angry. In order to list them all I'd have to watch it again and I don't think I could sit through that garbage again. I agree with what was said above that each of them was trying to be profound and ended up saying nothing of substance. As far as my experience, the gay community in Chicago is no where near as self-loathing. Ironically the guys in the video came off as self-loathing and at the same time elitist in that they thought they were better than the whole gay community.

Anonymous said...

I agree with many of the sentiments expressed by the guys in this piece. What does "gay" mean at this point in time? "Gay" as a mass-marketing/political theme is only thirty-five years old, but homosexuality has been around forever. On the whole this study touches the subject of self-discovery and empowerment. When young it is easier it is easier to assume a role that people can realte to that's empowering. The role was dictated by the media, our churches, high schools and parents and easy to assume. It is a self-defense mechanism. But, after high school and after college, these young men come to realize that the method of self presetvation they adopted was not really who they are.

I don't uinderstand why anybody would find this offensive, homosexuality is becoming accepted and better understood by our straight counter-parts. This success was in fact due to those who came before and used the concept of gay and sex to bring America out of the closet. But America has evolved and is evolving. The message I get from this video is that the homosexual community has to evolve as well, which may mean that gay is no needed as a code word for homosexual. Homosexual afterall is a sexuality and gay is a maleable, co-optable, vauge, poorly concpetulaized, mis-conceptualized what? Idea. . .brand...label. . .? Can gay even be defined other than by aesthetics.

Craig said...

I have no problem with this video. I'm 47 and single. I understand a lot of what they are talking about so I wouldn't blame it on their naivete. So many people think they know what "gay" is and they are usually wrong. Everyone is different. Gays stereotype gays just like straights do. Not everybody fits into a particular sub-group on any other group.