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Wednesday, October 3, 2012
Jordana Presley's -- Not So Blind Item
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Although I do understand what you're saying, that people should disclose if they have an STI, I think it's something personal. What if someone from your work comes across your profile? That's part of your personal medical history there.
I think it would be more important to let someone know when you're exchanging messages with them. It's part of the discovery process in a relationship. Should you find it to be a deal breaker, then you part ways and leave it at that.
Furthermore, certain STIs are more common than we want to think. It's estimated that 16.2% of Americans have it, so a little over 50 million people are carrying. It's possible to show no symptoms at all, and be a carrier for the virus. It's better to let someone know at the proper time.
I'm not talking about shaming someone for having any type of disease, be it sexually transmitted or otherwise; what I'm really trying to get at is the complete lack of honesty in the online dating arena.
As we become increasingly comfortable hiding behind our computers, it becomes increasingly easy to hide information that may be harmful to or hurtful to whomever we're trying to communicate with.
Granted, no one is absolved of this phenomenon, as it's human nature to want to put our "best face" forward; if you think I look the way I look in my photo the minute I roll out of bed, you are greatly mistaken. :) That being said, when a profile is designed to attract a partner for intimate purposes (such as an online dating profile), dishonesty can become quite problematic and even dangerous for a myriad of reasons.
I do see your point Tamayn and understand where your coming from, but it's my opinion that people migrate towards online dating for specific reasons and they're reasons that are not necessarily honest or healthy. Chances are if they're posting a photo from 1997 or lying about how much they weigh or how much they drink, they're probably lying about a lot more and won't be so eager to send you a private message about any of it.
"Buyer beware" is all.
Sidenote: when you are cast for any reality TV show you are forced to submit to an entire STD work-up as well as a psychological inventory. I know because I have participated in one and yes, I passed both tests. It would be great if there was a dating website that held people to the same standards of integrity and stability as reality TV; when you think about it, that's really not asking a lot.
I do see your point about buyer beware on the internet. It's a pretty scary place if you don't be careful about who you talk to. However; the anonymity of the internet is a double edged sword. There are people who use that anonymity to do hurtful things, but at the same time, it's nice for some people to be able to express who they are completely. I know that without the ability to be myself on the internet when I was back in high school, I never would have made it through. For a lot of people in small towns, the internet is where the closet ends.
I also think it depends on what you are using a dating site for. It's very easy to use a dating site for hookups; especially gay sites. It's possible to have long term relationships happen as a result of such sites though. I do apologize for how bad this sounds, but when I was single and used to go on gay.com, I would always talk a bit with guys I would meet in chats. If they couldn't carry on a conversation, I wasn't interested.
But I definitely agree that there should be notification of some kind. I think the when is a gray area. The reason why I would put it in a different category than a reality show is that it's human nature that when you put a bunch of people in close quarters, there is always a chance of sex happening. As for the psychological exams, they have to cover their asses after the time that one guy threatened another housemate on Big Brother with a knife. I think there was even a real world "movie" about a cast member who went insane and shot some housemates and held the others hostage.
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